New Year's Resolutions

Staying Accountable to You

Written by
Robyn DeRespinis
December 18, 2020
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Did 2020 mess with your goals? Thank goodness another New Year is on it’s way!

Many people are inspired by big goals and use this time of year to assess their desires. Yet the ability to take action and remain consistent as you work toward accomplishing goals can be daunting…especially in the face of adversary and uncertainty.

The only constant in life is change, a la 2020, so learning to become more resilient in order to create more personal accountability is necessary to achieve your personal successes while learning to live riding the waves of life.

As the reveal of the new year gives you moments to reflect on what you’d like to achieve over the next 12 months, the truth is, in order for you to find success with any goal, it needs to feel electrifying!

Excitement and Belief

Your level of excitement is a huge factor in your ability to achieve. Too much excitement can cause unnecessary pressure that has many jumping ship when the windy path toward success feels tough. Too little excitement and you’re likely to exchange your goal for that last piece of chocolate cake that’s been calling your name.

Excitement is in direct proportion to your level of belief and actualization.

In order to achieve, you first have to believe you are capable of it. Want to lose 50 pounds? Ready to reconnect relationships? Looking to start a business and take your career to the next level?

All of this is possible….as long as you believe it to be.

Your success on any goal correlates your belief that it can or can not happen. The more you see yourself on achievement alley, the more you will align your choices to help get you there.

Keep a Promise to Yourself

Why does it feel so hard to stay consistent to yourself but easier to stay accountable to others?

As a rule, let’s begin to understand that when you make a promise to yourself, or set a goal, it is because you believe it is for your own good. Yet, when the going gets tough, even convinced it’s for your best life, throwing in the towel happens more easily than you’d like.

This does not mean that you are not good enough to stick to what you say. This is not a matter of productivity vs laziness.

The truth is, you lack integrity to yourself. Yup, that’s right…when you say you are going to do something, and then don’t, it’s not because you can’t achieve physically…..it’s because you accept lying to yourself more than you should.

See, you’ve been conditioned to not bring disappointment to others. The social stigma of letting another down is ingrained in many people throughout their childhood and easily translates into adult living.

This is exactly why people show up, work harder, and stay more committed, when working with a personal trainer, business coach, or accountability partner.

You are also used to working toward someone else’s expectation of you. That’s why you work harder when accountability is around.

In the same breath, you are used to giving up on you, that’s exactly why you do that too.

So how can you up your personal integrity while keeping the promise of working toward a goal for yourself?

Start with making your goal non-negotiable.

Then, work daily through committing to small tasks and completing them.

Day in and day out, you will begin to find that there is nothing more gratifying than sticking to something you say you are going to do for you.

Achieve Mini Goals

Along your path of progress, it is important to set up mini goals and celebrations. Mini goals are daily or weekly accomplishments that bring you closer to your overall dream.

Rome wasn’t built in a day and mountains aren’t scaled by one giant leap. Step by step and brick by brick is the exact way to get you from where you are to where you know you are meant to be.

Don’t forget to celebrate your milestones along the way!

Bringing it all together

Achievement and Success are yours for the taking. Working to enhance your level of excitement and accomplishing manageable, daily tasks are all parts of keeping a promise to yourself.

As you continue to raise your personal integrity you will realize that success is imminent and worthy in your life. Everything that you dream of for your highest good is achievable. Keep going!

At Inner Clarity, our therapists are trained to help you recognize your patterns and learn to work in a way that brings you more personal fulfillment, achievement, and success. Together, we work so you feel guided toward uncovering how to live your best life and keep promises to yourself. Ready to make the next year your best year? Schedule an appointment HERE.

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